tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post3854362602738956742..comments2023-08-19T07:41:24.973-07:00Comments on Darlene's Hodgepodge: AdviceDarlenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18373134676852496647noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-4546242433177322732009-09-16T15:50:36.742-07:002009-09-16T15:50:36.742-07:00*Friko - One thing about not giving advice; it kee...*Friko - One thing about not giving advice; it keeps you out of trouble. ;-)Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18373134676852496647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-45461963679563725982009-09-16T03:02:49.083-07:002009-09-16T03:02:49.083-07:00Excellent advice, your post. I too have stopped gi...Excellent advice, your post. I too have stopped giving advice a long time ago, ever since I realised that people are ENTITLED to make their own mistakes. How else will we ever learn?<br /><br />I like the one about taking the advice we give to others best.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-87838999760557029992009-09-15T07:48:32.519-07:002009-09-15T07:48:32.519-07:00*One Woman's Journey - We usually copy many th...*One Woman's Journey - We usually copy many things our mother's did that we swore we wouldn't do. ;-)<br /><br />*Joy - Love is the operative word there, isn't it Joy?Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18373134676852496647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-34782455101307114192009-09-15T06:05:15.626-07:002009-09-15T06:05:15.626-07:00Since my kids and I talk a lot about pretty much e...Since my kids and I talk a lot about pretty much everything....I think we have worked it out where we don't actually call it 'advice' but that I'm their 'sounding board.' It seems to cover things nicely; and whatever comes out of my mouth after that is okay with them. Since they know I will listen to anything snd everything with love...and an objective ear....(just as I know you do Darlene,) they give me a lot of leeway too.Joy Des Jardinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04893445642606862131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-58220191986691218802009-09-15T03:58:28.463-07:002009-09-15T03:58:28.463-07:00Darlene, a great post. As I read I could see mys...Darlene, a great post. As I read I could see myself!! Guess I have been a slow learner. Words come out of my mouth before thinking. I am getting better. I remember how I disliked the advice my mother was always passing on and vowed not to be like this.One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12548226150115102345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-92084805969537191282009-09-14T09:47:44.443-07:002009-09-14T09:47:44.443-07:00*Sylvia - I always knew you were a wise woman.
*M...*Sylvia - I always knew you were a wise woman.<br /><br />*MissDazey - Good one!!! Thank you for your visit. I do hope you will return.<br /><br />*Cowtown Pattie - I think you can consider yourself a successful Mom.<br /><br />*Kenju - Thanks for clearing up what I was trying to say. <br /><br />*Rummuser - You know it was your post that gave me the idea for this one. Thank you.<br /><br />*Wally _Too funny "their eyes begin to glass over." I know that look well.Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18373134676852496647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-22961690630205416762009-09-14T06:28:43.676-07:002009-09-14T06:28:43.676-07:00I try not to give advice the kids and grandkids, e...I try not to give advice the kids and grandkids, especially after they ask for the "condensed version", or their eyes begin to glass over. But, if their life mistakes cost me time and treasure I tell them that if they accept my help then they will have to listen to my lectures.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03204625068309822016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-43177255350088021592009-09-14T05:26:37.793-07:002009-09-14T05:26:37.793-07:00I have my 92 year old father living with me as als...I have my 92 year old father living with me as also my 38 year old divorced son. I am subject to stereophonic advise from both generations above and below me. Neither asks for mine nor do I offer. I have learnt not to, just as you did, after a lot of regrets. It comes as a surprise to them when outsiders ask for my advise!Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-28489697966549406302009-09-13T19:47:31.630-07:002009-09-13T19:47:31.630-07:00You're a wise woman. I try very hard not to di...You're a wise woman. I try very hard not to dispense advice to my grown kids. Sometimes it is impossible not to....LOLkenjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-22474816199399607052009-09-13T18:31:19.075-07:002009-09-13T18:31:19.075-07:00Fortunately (or maybe not?) my daughters still thi...Fortunately (or maybe not?) my daughters still think I am wise. <br /><br />Occasionally they smart-alec me when they think I am harping, but for the most part, I am still who they turn to for help and the truth.Cowtown Pattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07384649567351202679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-29972466324210630282009-09-13T15:45:00.536-07:002009-09-13T15:45:00.536-07:00I can't say I give advice as much as I give my...I can't say I give advice as much as I give my opinion on things.MissDazeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03016106662830199895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342692190188505824.post-82272702512227205242009-09-13T14:38:43.515-07:002009-09-13T14:38:43.515-07:00Great post, Darlene! Maybe it was because I had my...Great post, Darlene! Maybe it was because I had my kids a little later in life, or for whatever reason, I figured once my kids reached twenty that I had taught them all they were going to learn from me and in many ways I stopped being the "parent". I was always there for them, I would always listen, but I was pretty tight mouthed with any advice unless asked. I've thought of us more as best friends since they turned twenty and it has worked well for us. They always knew that I was here for them, but I didn't try to push myself into their lives even though there were times I wondered if I was doing the right thing. I haven't regretted the path that I chose to take with them and even though we're scattered all over the country, we remain close. <br /><br />I guess we all do our "parent" thing in the way that works best for us -- and them.<br /><br />Have a great day, Darlene!<br /><br />SylviaSylvia Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484577678585907669noreply@blogger.com